Top 5 Ways Romance Novels are Important to Women’s Lives

Editor’s Note: this month is National Women’s Month and starting March 8th, International Women’s Day, we are featuring writers who have shared with us their thoughts on reading romance. Today we’ve asked SB Sarah from Smart Bitches, Trashy Books to share her thoughts. Click here for more blog posts on the subject!

By SB Sarah, blogger for Smart Bitches, Trashy Books and author of Beyond Heaving Bosoms: The Smart Bitches Guide to Romance Novels

5. There is no “Only if.”

In the “real world,” which is not always as pleasant as the world of romance novels, there are a slew of conditions attached to any decision a woman makes. But in the world of romance novels, there’s never a condition to your happiness. You can date that amazing man, you can run your own business, you can have children, you can achieve happiness… whenever and however you want. No conditions.

4. Orgasms are important.

Only in romance is women’s sexual satisfaction and fulfillment a requirement to a happily ever after.

3. No guilt. Ever.

Do romance heroines feel endlessly guilty for going after the man they want, for having desire and ambition, for gleefully buying shoes or for deciding that their own happiness is essential? Nope. Neither should we.

2. Reclaim Your Right To Daydream

Romances are often dismissed as fantasy cotton fluff for ignorant women. I call “Hogwash” on the latter part, and “So?” on the former. There are myriad methods for people to relax and immerse themselves in fantasy and creativity, and romances are merely one more, and no better or worse than any other. In fact, with cold reality being so annoying at times recently, escaping into daydreams is necessary and good for you.

1. We Win!

Only in romances do the heroines achieve autonomy, satisfaction, joy, peace, and happy resolution to real and painful problems, consistently and as a matter of course. In short, we win, without guilt, self-recrimination, or avarice. Romances celebrate women, and I can’t think of a more important reason to celebrate romances in return.

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Comments ( 11 )
  1. Vicky Dreiling
    March 15, 2010 at 1:02 pm
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    Loved this! You might add #6: Reading a romance is calorie-free.

  2. Kimberly Van Meter
    March 15, 2010 at 1:28 pm
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    #4 rules.

  3. Patti Ann Colt
    March 15, 2010 at 2:48 pm
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    Sarah girl, you are everywhere! And bless you for it! Chocolate must be powering your energizer bunny. Where can I sent my contribution? 😉

    I love all of these, but my favorite is #5.

  4. Julie Miller
    March 15, 2010 at 2:49 pm
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    Amen! I’m going to share these rules with my friends.

  5. Kelly McCrady
    March 15, 2010 at 7:13 pm
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    Why is watching the latest chick flick a near-requirement for women everywhere yet reading a romance book is still labeled negatively? I’ve read hundreds of romance books in a few short years and have concluded that most if not all are far superior to chick flicks for entertainment and satisfaction. Yes, Carrie and Patti, I’ve turned to the dark side LOL

    SB Sarah, I like #3 on your list best

    security words: although pedestal

  6. Karen H
    March 15, 2010 at 7:53 pm
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    #1 has been my main rebuttal to naysayers since I read something like it in “Dangerous Men and Adventurous Women” many years ago. I’m a feminist from way back and, while there are romances that can be too paternalistic towards the heroine, I can easily avoid those and read all the great ones out there.

    But your entire list is spot on! Thanks!

  7. uberVU - social comments
    March 15, 2010 at 8:01 pm
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    Social comments and analytics for this post…

    This post was mentioned on Twitter by HarlequinBooks: Today @smartbitches Sarah writes 5 reasons why romances rock at the Harlequin Blog. #3 is about orgasms. ‘Nuff said? http://bit.ly/aPp7Ps

  8. Ashley Ladd
    March 15, 2010 at 8:20 pm
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    Yep. You’re dead on. Good article. 🙂

  9. Glynis
    March 15, 2010 at 11:38 pm
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    Just read the whole article, out loud, to my boyfriend. He said “They ARE smart bitches. Really smart.” *grin*

  10. Adriana Kraft
    March 17, 2010 at 1:20 pm
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    Spot on, and never better said.

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